Unlearning Survival

The Scholarship

“My mission in life is not merely to survive, but to thrive; and to do so with some passion, some compassion, some humor, and some style.”

Maya Angelou


Before we thrive or reach “self-actualization”, it is essential to understand the ways in which fear, doubt, and disbelief hinder our ability to be our best selves. It is also important to identify the ways in which we have been conditioned, through fear and lovelessness, to remain complacent with lives that do not mirror those in our dreams. Survival encourages us to embody scarcity thinking (there is not enough) rather than abundant living (there is always enough). Survival mentality tricks us into believing that:

  1. We are not enough without our accomplishments

  2. Striving is never-ending so we have to continuously work hard 100% of the time

  3. We are not whole as we are

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Loved by Destiny is a platform dedicated to helping people, especially women, unlearn habits of survival by stimulating self-love through self-awareness. In 2018, Destiny Saldivar, Founding Editor of Loved by Destiny,  published an interactive journal titled, “Unlearning Survival: 25 Lessons to Help You Transcend Survival and Thrive,” in order to help determined beautiful souls practice actionable self-love, dig deep, and uncover their faulty thought patterns while understanding how they got there in the first place. She believes that only after practicing rigorous honesty with ourselves, understanding our wounds, and choosing to face the light, can we truly thrive. At the launch of the journal, 18 beautiful souls pledged 100% of their purchase towards a scholarship to a first generation low-income college-bound student. In addition to their donation, Destiny has also donated a portion of her business revenue to the scholarship.

About the scholarship


Often times, first-generation low-income students’ first opportunity to unlearn habits of survival is by going away to college and physically removing themselves from the survival cycle that exists in their homes. Loved by Destiny is awarding one young woman who will enroll at a 2- or 4-year institution in the Fall of 2019, a one-time $500 scholarship to assist with billable costs or indirect costs associated with going away to college.  The scholarship also includes the following benefits:


Lifetime mentorship by Destiny Saldivar, Founding Editor of Loved by Destiny. Destiny has been a college access professional for 6 years now, successfully helping over 75 scholars enroll at 4-year degree-granting institutions. On average, 67% of Destiny's students have been admitted via special programs such as EOP, HEOP, Posse, and Questbridge. On average, her students take out about $5,500 in loans per year, and approximately 80% of her students are currently persisting past their first year. She believes in the power of higher education for youth of color and enjoys helping first-generation students navigate through college in a way that will maximize their investment.


Semester check-ins and academic advising


Yearly assistance with accurately filling out financial aid documents (FAFSA, TAP, CSS), and appealing, if necessary


Yearly internship consulting to ensure all summer internships fellowships, or jobs align to overall career goals


One free copy of Unlearning Survival: 25 Lessons to Help You Transcend Survival and Thrive


What does "Unlearning Survival" mean?


Unlearning Survival means creating boundaries that protect the inner peace you consistently work to build. It means knowing yourself through the analysis of your thought patterns, and practicing self-compassion as you learn to forgive yourself and try again the next day. It is understanding that your thought patterns are conditioned through your upbringing, and working to choose the narrative that is most in alignment with your best and truest self. It is choosing not to become a product of your environment. Unlearning Survival means reclaiming your power by realizing that fear is created, not innate. It means choosing to do the things that scare you because you are cognizant of the growth that exists on the other side. Unlearning Survival means practicing unwavering self-care, even when putting yourself first is looked down upon amongst those around you. Lastly, Unlearning Survival is a persistent dedication to being your truest most love-filled self, while also accepting that you are wonderfully, divinely, and beautifully made as you are right now.



Who are we looking for?


Loved by Destiny is looking for a relentless, persistent, and driven young woman who is actively working to become her best self every day, despite the challenges she has faced in her life. We are looking for a fearless dreamer, who is adamant about making her goals a reality.  Scholarship candidates must:


Reside within the 5 New York City Boroughs. Preference is given to young women of Dominican descent who reside in Washington Heights, NYC though all are highly encouraged to apply


Graduate from a New York City high school


Enroll at a 2 or 4-year institution in the Fall of 2019 and have proof of enrollment (via paid or waived deposit)


Be a first-generation college student


Identify as a student of color


Identify as low income as determined by the EOP guidelines, OR provide an extenuating circumstance statement to explain why, despite income, this scholarship would be helpful to you. Proof of income (1040, 1040A, IT201, and if applicable, SNAP benefits, SSI, Section 8) required for both.


Submit a resume


Answer the following questions in 600 words or less:

  • What people or events have shaped you?

  • In what ways have you unlearned habits of survival in your life?  What was the impact of making that choice? How are you ready to thrive rather than survive?

  • How will going away to college will assist you on your journey of unlearning survival?


Applications will be accepted until May 22nd, 2019 11:59 PM. The scholarship recipient will be contacted on or before June 22nd, 2019.


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